Today is the start of our finals. We have a great and innovative principal that gave us the option to have an extended finals schedule that allows students to have more time to do projects that truly assess their skills learned. I am so excited with the results! My students were engaged the entire 2 hours! It was common core to the core. I will post examples soon, I am still grading in facination!
Today the conversation in first period was, have you ever seen your mom get hit by someone? These men that beat my students mom were not their husbands, or my students dads. They call these men pathetic, worthless and trash; but, I still worry. I worry that the boys in my class will lose their short temper and become what they hate, and I worry that the girls will accept those that treat them poorly. In a class of 15 students, 3 students have watched their mom get beat by a man. We have to have more education and therapy for those at risk students and their family, we are not breaking any cycles and this all unraveled before 8:15am.
We have so many students in our schools that are looking for what is missing in their lives. For some it is strong female mother like figures, some male father like figures, but, they are looking for something. I have had many students tell me in joking "I wish you were my mom." I have always taken great pride in this, yet I always struggle with how to deal with this. My first instinct is to mother. I am a mother and it is second nature to me, but with that comes the mother. The rule setting, high expectation giving, no sugar coating mom in me. I make my students accountable for all of their actions in school and in life. I never let them make excuses or lay blame. I one particularly loud conversation with crazy "A" (I use crazy in the most loving way) our loud conversation prod him out the door to the principals office which is where he was avoiding to take his punishment for ditching school like an adult. My first instinct when really frustrated was to yell "If you want me as a mom, this is what it is like! Deal with it!" And that was that. He got his punishment, he got a taste of the grass on the other side, and hopefully a life lesson on taking responsibility for his actions.
Just another day as a continuation school teacher.